January, 2021 | All Yak But No Shak

By Judy Sekinger January 26, 2021 in Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship No Comments

Togetherness…..

So you’ve been dating a few months, everything’s going quite well, and now you’re invited to go on a trip, spending a weekend together….togetherness! Nervous? That’s perfectly normal, and I’m sure you’re partner feels exactly the same. Nervous, excited, anxious for the feelings and positive vibes you two will be creating together during the next few days. Ah, the bliss of a new relationship. So here you are the evening before, packing your bag and nervously wishing you could take the whole closet. What are you going to do? Tomorrow morning

By Judy Sekinger January 21, 2021 in Breakups, Closure, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility No Comments

Taking the breakup personally?

How do you not take it personally when someone doesn’t want to see you anymore, or when your issues just aren’t on the same page? Well, look at it this way: They did you a favor by letting you go so you can find the better match that is for you. I wanted to say perfect match, but there really isn’t a perfect, although there is a really, really great match for you out there. Ya gotta get through the breakup, whether it’s after two dates or two years, and

By Judy Sekinger January 20, 2021 in Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Relationship, Responsibility, Sex No Comments

Give the guy a break!

Ladies, and I mean married, single, as well as in a relationship: Give the guy a break! Men a women’s minds have different conceptions of love, lust, and relationship communications. Your man isn’t perfect and either are you. Guys are guys, and quite frankly, (generally speaking) I find their simple to the point mind refreshing. Simply enjoy the view when they’re flipping the meat on the grill. So if you’re expecting a fairytale Valentine’s Day, birthday celebration, or life with your man, you may want to get some basic professional

By Judy Sekinger January 19, 2021 in Breakups, Cheating, Closure, Communication, Goals, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Stress No Comments

Ruby Slippers

A few weeks ago I met up with a friend one evening, I’ll call her Dorothy. During our catch-up conversation, unexpectedly, she thanked me for being there for her through her divorce a few years ago…..my how time fly’s! I said, “Dorothy, I did not do anything!” Still, she thanked me. Two years prior Dorothy had moved downtown, with 2 dogs, 4 semi-adult children off and thriving in the world, great friends, and the best head of hair! When she introduced herself to me, Dorothy had tears in her eyes,

By Judy Sekinger January 17, 2021 in Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Relationship, Uncategorized No Comments

..before it’s too late

I didn’t really know what to write this morning, and nothing is fine by me. Zella didn’t want to go for a walk….very rare. So here I am humming to Desperado during my morning off routine: Desperado, why don’t you come to your senses? Come down from your fences, open the gate It may be rainin’, but there’s a rainbow above you You better let somebody love you Let somebody love you You better let somebody love you before it’s too late #Eagles

By Judy Sekinger January 15, 2021 in Dating, Foreplay, Lifestyle, Love, Relationship, Sex No Comments

Kissing on the sofa

Yesterday morning I ran into KK (fictitious name) while walking my dog, Zella. Our dogs are best buds….so cute! KK was so excited because she met a man via mutual work associates and have been dating for a few months. KK said “Judy, we can just sit on the sofa and kiss for hours!” Well, I have to comment when it comes to dating. “Seriously KK this happens at every age. It’s like puppy love and lust and love can happen in your 70’s just like in your teens!” KK

By Judy Sekinger January 14, 2021 in Breakups, Cheating, Closure, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Stress No Comments

Readjust and Move Forward

Remember that every relationship is different from one person to the next. And the great thing about dating is that you’re not married so it’s easy to make a sincere exit from your relationship and search for the one for you! I get that it hurts and you’re right that breakups aren’t easy. The takeaway here is that just because you had different viewpoints and issues with one person doesn’t mean it’ll be same with another. Take a quick dating break, readjust, get out of your own way, and move

By Judy Sekinger January 12, 2021 in Breakups, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Getting Anywhere?

Dating and not getting anywhere? Stop, and take a year or so off from seeing anyone romantically. Make friends with folks you normally wouldn’t. Try different experiences alone or with others. Get comfortable by yourself and know yourself better. Regroup yourself and get back to that great base person that you truly are. Now after your break from dating, see the types of person you attract and who you’re attracted to. I bet they’ll be more compatible to the person you truly are. The whole point here is to find

By Judy Sekinger January 8, 2021 in Communication, Dating, Foreplay, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Gentlemen

Hey guys, when meeting your first date at a venue be sure to be there before her, or at least within minutes of the agreed upon time. Traffic? Couldn’t find the other sock? Mom called? There is no excuse. The lady shouldn’t have to wait there by herself, and you never know who she could meet while waiting for your scrumptious buttocks. Game on! Married men, be there on time for your wives, this shows you care and is very good foreplay for what’s to come.

By Judy Sekinger January 4, 2021 in Breakups, Closure, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility No Comments

Cereal (Serial) Dating ~ Wheaties or Captain Crunch?

You gotta think about why you’re dating. Stop. Think. Why? Are you filling up your time with date after date because you’re afraid to be alone (Captain Crunch) or simply can’t find the right long termer (Wheaties)? A few years ago I was listening to Jenny McCarthy on XM radio. She’s the best…funny as heck and as smart as my Rhodesian Ridgeback, Zella, well almost. Jenny hides her smarts behind her comedic personality, the glossed locks and beautiful skin, and guys I don’t even have to mention her BOOBS, and

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