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I really don’t watch much TV, but I had it on last week from the nightly news to catch up on the beautiful people and country of Ukraine…and I am praying for their peace. A few hours later I walked by the TV and saw The Bachelor, and thought I should see what’s going on, well, because I’m kinda interested in the dating arena. Classic ending that I could’ve guessed and here’s why: Two women (of  the three left) were very emotionally hurt because they slept with him before they

Take a REAL look at what’s going on in your dating situation. Rather than getting super emotional, #crying #whinning, take a step back and regroup.  Look at what your dating situation really is:  He/She isn’t respecting you or your feelings.  YOU are perfectly perfect and you need to run, not walk, to your Happy Healthy Relationship. This is for guys as well as the ladies. *Note:  If you think you can stay for your own gain, you’re mistaken.  You’re wasting you’re well-being and adding stress to your life.

So…you went through another relationship, ugh.  #breakup  No matter who called this shot, this is a good thing because now you can have the opportunity to find the right person to include in your life. You were probably matched incorrectly, meaning that you weren’t a match from the beginning. This is why we date, to get to know someone’s values and our intimacy stages with them.   If there isn’t an intimate bonding in different ways, then there won’t be a happy, healthy relationship. While dating, you need to spend as

Ladies,  After a few weeks of dating, you don’t hear from him anymore.  OMG, why? Probably because he gave you some good lip service and won’t pull through with his promises. You didn’t hear from him…there’s your answer. Another reason why you shouldn’t be intimate for 2-3 months. #values Protect yourself with your boundaries.

Ever wonder why you keep thinking about your ex all the time…those fond memories?   Our common sense protective instincts that usually protect and serve us in a physical trauma aren’t used when your heart is broken…    When your heart is broken your thoughts go down a different path, heart ache causes such dramatic emotional pain, and even when we are given a very logical reason why that person broke up with us (damn it!) we make up mysteries and other theories when there are none.  We cannot trust what

I’ve seen this over and over again, and I was reminded again…..ugh….not in my personal life, for the record only.  One of the greatest ways to kill romance, or any chance of romance in your relationship, is to leave a mess in your home for your partner to live with and clean up after. And while I’d like to say that you are simply a slob and don’t know any better, I’m calling your B.S.  You’re an adult, get your crap together or get out. This passive aggressive move is

In a relationship do you have a ball & chain or are YOU the ball & chain?  I see this happening many, many times in a relationship.  In the beginning stages of dating, usually both people begin the relationship with an independent life and attitude.  And as time goes on, one of the two people slowly makes sacrifices in their own life to spend more time with their new partner.  What happens?  Their daily routine follows their partners schedule, and before they know it, Voila!  Now, not only do they lose a sense

Remember that phrase from your younger years, and if you’re lucky enough to be blessed with children, are your kids using this phrase?  I remember the one time I was caught in a lie as a child, I let the hamster out of the cage to run around the room and voila,  he disappeared.  There weren’t any of my three siblings around, and of course they wouldn’t take the blame anyway.  Yup, caught in a lie and for me as a child this was traumatic.  I didn’t get spanked or

How do you not take it personally when someone doesn’t want to see you anymore, or when your issues just aren’t on the same page?  Well, look at it this way:  They did you a favor by letting you go so you can find the better match that is for you.  I wanted to say perfect match, but there really isn’t a perfect, although there is a really, really great match for you out there. Ya gotta get through the breakup, whether it’s after two dates or two years, and

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