Breakups

By Judy Sekinger January 19, 2021 in Breakups, Cheating, Closure, Communication, Goals, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Stress No Comments

Ruby Slippers

A few weeks ago I met up with a friend one evening, I’ll call her Dorothy. During our catch-up conversation, unexpectedly, she thanked me for being there for her through her divorce a few years ago…..my how time fly’s! I said, “Dorothy, I did not do anything!” Still, she thanked me. Two years prior Dorothy had moved downtown, with 2 dogs, 4 semi-adult children off and thriving in the world, great friends, and the best head of hair! When she introduced herself to me, Dorothy had tears in her eyes,

By Judy Sekinger January 14, 2021 in Breakups, Cheating, Closure, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Stress No Comments

Readjust and Move Forward

Remember that every relationship is different from one person to the next. And the great thing about dating is that you’re not married so it’s easy to make a sincere exit from your relationship and search for the one for you! I get that it hurts and you’re right that breakups aren’t easy. The takeaway here is that just because you had different viewpoints and issues with one person doesn’t mean it’ll be same with another. Take a quick dating break, readjust, get out of your own way, and move

By Judy Sekinger January 12, 2021 in Breakups, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Getting Anywhere?

Dating and not getting anywhere? Stop, and take a year or so off from seeing anyone romantically. Make friends with folks you normally wouldn’t. Try different experiences alone or with others. Get comfortable by yourself and know yourself better. Regroup yourself and get back to that great base person that you truly are. Now after your break from dating, see the types of person you attract and who you’re attracted to. I bet they’ll be more compatible to the person you truly are. The whole point here is to find

By Judy Sekinger January 4, 2021 in Breakups, Closure, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility No Comments

Cereal (Serial) Dating ~ Wheaties or Captain Crunch?

You gotta think about why you’re dating. Stop. Think. Why? Are you filling up your time with date after date because you’re afraid to be alone (Captain Crunch) or simply can’t find the right long termer (Wheaties)? A few years ago I was listening to Jenny McCarthy on XM radio. She’s the best…funny as heck and as smart as my Rhodesian Ridgeback, Zella, well almost. Jenny hides her smarts behind her comedic personality, the glossed locks and beautiful skin, and guys I don’t even have to mention her BOOBS, and

By Judy Sekinger January 3, 2021 in Breakups, Cheating, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Internet or Introduction?

What’s the best way to meet the person of your dreams? On-line dating or through a friend? Online, you don’t know this person but with resources today you can do your due diligence. So, your soccer mom friends know a man/woman from a different league and think you’re both nice people and should meet? Sure, go ahead but treat this like an online date. Eyes wide open, because your friends really don’t know this person or their working brain. Don’t trust him/her just because your friends know this person. Ask

By Judy Sekinger December 30, 2020 in Breakups, Closure, Communication, Dating, Goals, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility No Comments

Dating Investment

Ready to invest in dating? This investment is your time, not your money. Realistically, are you able to free up a part of your schedule in the beginning to get to know this new potential partner? Realistically, you’re going to need to free more time during the entire dating process. And, dating is a numbers game depending on the experience of the dater. You’ll most likely spend a few months together and happily hop your own ways, dating some more to find your life partner, or dating for what other

By Judy Sekinger December 15, 2020 in Arguing, Breakups, Communication, Dating, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Stress No Comments

Rejection, it’s most likely not your fault

Rejection is really tough to take, and we’ve all been rejected at one time or another in a relationship or simply by someone we’d like to get to know. 🙂 That other person is looking for his or her match…whatever that match may be. Yes, it’s personal, but don’t take it personally. Be sure to ask for a sound explanation, and remember that persons expanation for refection at a later time. You’ll see that the break-up was probably for a good reason. You have to go through the emotional shock

By Judy Sekinger November 30, 2020 in Breakups, Closure, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

If the In-Laws are Monsters…..

…then the marriage will never work!? True or False? This was the discussion at an early morning Pilates Reformer class this morning. A 27 year old woman said that because the instructors ex-BF’s mother was very opinionated and controlling over their wedding plans, that a marriage would never had worked….of course, I had to add my two-cents. 🙂 The marriage absolutely can work. BUT, only, and I emphasize ONLY, if the husband takes the side of his bride at every difficult turn AND has the talk with his Mother. The couple

By Judy Sekinger November 9, 2020 in Breakups, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Responsibility, Sex No Comments

Rewind Date?

Have you recently accepted or initiated a previous date? You know a rewind date… person you’ve dated pre-covid and are now circling back to? Maybe it’s a great possibility because you think you didn’t give the person a fair chance or maybe you have more time with the current world wide slow down to focus on your date. If there’s any type of attraction, explore the possibilities with this person. As always, be upfront and honest while dating. Casual? Companionship? Relationship? Hookup?

By Judy Sekinger November 5, 2020 in Arguing, Breakups, Closure, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Responsibility, Sex, Uncategorized No Comments

Dating The Life of the Party

Is dating the life of the party a bad idea? The life of the party (LOTP) always looks good physically, is exciting, and happy. The LOTP most likely has great social skills, impresses family members well, craves social interaction with groups, and is emotionally appealing on the surface. The downside of the LOTP is that they are on full speed ahead while in public, and not many people have the energy to keep up at this pace during all their waking hours. The LOTP is most likely more introverted at

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