I really don’t watch much TV, but I had it on last week from the nightly news to catch up on the beautiful people and country of Ukraine…and I am praying for their peace. A few hours later I walked by the TV and saw The Bachelor, and thought I should see what’s going on, well, because I’m kinda interested in the dating arena. Classic ending that I could’ve guessed and here’s why: Two women (of the three left) were very emotionally hurt because they slept with him before they
Don’t do it.
Remember that phrase from your younger years, and if you’re lucky enough to be blessed with children, are your kids using this phrase? I remember the one time I was caught in a lie as a child, I let the hamster out of the cage to run around the room and voila, he disappeared. There weren’t any of my three siblings around, and of course they wouldn’t take the blame anyway. Yup, caught in a lie and for me as a child this was traumatic. I didn’t get spanked or
A few weeks ago I met up with a friend one evening, I’ll call her Dorothy. During our catch-up conversation, unexpectedly, she thanked me for being there for her through her divorce a few years ago…..my how time fly’s! I said, “Dorothy, I did not do anything!” Still, she thanked me. Two years prior Dorothy had moved downtown, with 2 dogs, 4 semi-adult children off and thriving in the world, great friends, and the best head of hair! When she introduced herself to me, Dorothy had tears in her eyes,
Remember that every relationship is different from one person to the next. And the great thing about dating is that you’re not married so it’s easy to make a sincere exit from your relationship and search for the one for you! I get that it hurts and you’re right that breakups aren’t easy. The takeaway here is that just because you had different viewpoints and issues with one person doesn’t mean it’ll be same with another. Take a quick dating break, readjust, get out of your own way, and move
What’s the best way to meet the person of your dreams? On-line dating or through a friend? Online, you don’t know this person but with resources today you can do your due diligence. So, your soccer mom friends know a man/woman from a different league and think you’re both nice people and should meet? Sure, go ahead but treat this like an online date. Eyes wide open, because your friends really don’t know this person or their working brain. Don’t trust him/her just because your friends know this person. Ask
Your bored, lonely feeling may just simply be boredom if your married or in a relationship. Behave like your newly dating and you’ll be surprised by the results of your interactions with each other! Shower, style your hair, put real clothes on…get out of those daily grubs. Ladies, remember how you prepped for your man before he picked you up? I’ll bet your look and smell was sweet! Men notice, and you’ll see a difference in interaction. Men? Yup, we’re talking you too!! Shower and put on a shirt and dazzle
Getting over the fantasy of dating someone takes a little bit of time, so be compassionate with yourself, and know that your assumptions about how she/he would be to date is exactly that, an assumption. It’s likely you are fantasizing about what you think dating, or marriage, would be like with this person. Unfortunately she/he doesn’t have the same feelings that you do. Don’t take the rejection personally. A split is better happening sooner than later, before you have more emotions and time invested with this person. The sooner you
Dating two different people at the same time for several weeks or months can get tricky after awhile, especially when both of their names are the same! Mine were named John, and they were first dates out of the divorce gate…no joke….one was a fix-up and the other I met on the golf course. Now this was years ago when most of us still had a few corded landlines in certain areas of the home, and where it got tricky was when John would call and say “Hi, this is
“Abuse comes in many forms, not all of which are physical. When someone repeatedly uses words to demean, frighten, or control someone, it’s considered verbal abuse. The trouble is, when you’re involved in a verbally abusive relationship, it can wear you down and seem normal to you.” www.healthline.com Ten signs of verbal abuse: www.joinonelove.org Know that it’s not your fault, but it’s your responsibility to seek help for yourself.
