You gotta think about why you’re dating. Stop. Think. Why? Are you filling up your time with date after date because you’re afraid to be alone (Captain Crunch) or simply can’t find the right long termer (Wheaties)? A few years ago I was listening to Jenny McCarthy on XM radio. She’s the best…funny as heck and as smart as my Rhodesian Ridgeback, Zella, well almost. Jenny hides her smarts behind her comedic personality, the glossed locks and beautiful skin, and guys I don’t even have to mention her BOOBS, and
Ready to invest in dating? This investment is your time, not your money. Realistically, are you able to free up a part of your schedule in the beginning to get to know this new potential partner? Realistically, you’re going to need to free more time during the entire dating process. And, dating is a numbers game depending on the experience of the dater. You’ll most likely spend a few months together and happily hop your own ways, dating some more to find your life partner, or dating for what other
…then the marriage will never work!? True or False? This was the discussion at an early morning Pilates Reformer class this morning. A 27 year old woman said that because the instructors ex-BF’s mother was very opinionated and controlling over their wedding plans, that a marriage would never had worked….of course, I had to add my two-cents. 🙂 The marriage absolutely can work. BUT, only, and I emphasize ONLY, if the husband takes the side of his bride at every difficult turn AND has the talk with his Mother. The couple
Is dating the life of the party a bad idea? The life of the party (LOTP) always looks good physically, is exciting, and happy. The LOTP most likely has great social skills, impresses family members well, craves social interaction with groups, and is emotionally appealing on the surface. The downside of the LOTP is that they are on full speed ahead while in public, and not many people have the energy to keep up at this pace during all their waking hours. The LOTP is most likely more introverted at
Getting over the fantasy of dating someone takes a little bit of time, so be compassionate with yourself, and know that your assumptions about how she/he would be to date is exactly that, an assumption. It’s likely you are fantasizing about what you think dating, or marriage, would be like with this person. Unfortunately she/he doesn’t have the same feelings that you do. Don’t take the rejection personally. A split is better happening sooner than later, before you have more emotions and time invested with this person. The sooner you
“Abuse comes in many forms, not all of which are physical. When someone repeatedly uses words to demean, frighten, or control someone, it’s considered verbal abuse. The trouble is, when you’re involved in a verbally abusive relationship, it can wear you down and seem normal to you.” www.healthline.com Ten signs of verbal abuse: www.joinonelove.org Know that it’s not your fault, but it’s your responsibility to seek help for yourself.
