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By Judy Sekinger April 6, 2021 in Breakups, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Relationship, Responsibility, Uncategorized No Comments

Ball & Chain

In a relationship do you have a ball & chain or are YOU the ball & chain?  I see this happening many, many times in a relationship.  In the beginning stages of dating, usually both people begin the relationship with an independent life and attitude.  And as time goes on, one of the two people slowly makes sacrifices in their own life to spend more time with their new partner.  What happens?  Their daily routine follows their partners schedule, and before they know it, Voila!  Now, not only do they lose a sense

By Judy Sekinger March 23, 2021 in Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Responsibility, Sex No Comments

Ladies, keep your legs crossed

My Parents, what we put them through as teenager’s once we were allowed to begin dating!  I have 3 siblings and we all looked alike. The only male is the oldest…lucky him….or his life would’ve been much different.   If my math is correct, there were four children in five years, and I must say we had a very fun home growing up.  When I entered high school in the Pittsburgh area, I walked down the hall as an insecure freshman, and the teachers would stop and say that I was

By Judy Sekinger March 4, 2021 in Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Relationship No Comments

What if something wonderful is about to happen

What if everything you’ve gone through in dating, relationships, or marriage, are preparing you for what you’ve been asking for?  This inspired me because today I was thinking about someone that had a recent breakup and now seems to be past his rough patch and in great spirits!  Awesomeness is always around the corner if you let it be. Maybe this is why we date multiple people before we find the one we want to settle down with….the process of elimination, and not knowing what we need but finding out

By Judy Sekinger February 9, 2021 in Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Relationship, Responsibility No Comments

Standards

Are friends and family telling you that you’re too picky because you’re not dating or  because you can’t find your person?  Dating Rule #007:  Don’t listen to other peoples negative opinions.  Whether you want the prince or the hooker, do what your inner self is telling you. Hold tight to your standards and don’t give them up.  Your person will come in front of you at some point, making the journey well worth the wait.  You’re the cherry on the top of that tree…why spend time with someone picking up

By Judy Sekinger January 19, 2021 in Breakups, Cheating, Closure, Communication, Goals, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Stress No Comments

Ruby Slippers

A few weeks ago I met up with a friend one evening, I’ll call her Dorothy.  During our catch-up conversation, unexpectedly, she thanked me for being there for her through her divorce a few years ago…..my how time fly’s!  I said, “Dorothy, I did not do anything!”  Still, she thanked me. Two years prior Dorothy had moved downtown, with 2 dogs, 4 semi-adult children off and thriving in the world, great friends, and the best head of hair!  When she introduced herself to me, Dorothy had tears in her eyes,

By Judy Sekinger January 17, 2021 in Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Relationship, Uncategorized No Comments

..before it’s too late

I didn’t really know what to write this morning, and nothing is fine by me.  Zella didn’t want to go for a walk….very rare.  So here I am humming to Desperado during my morning off routine: Desperado, why don’t you come to your senses? Come down from your fences, open the gate It may be rainin’, but there’s a rainbow above you You better let somebody love you Let somebody love you You better let somebody love you before it’s too late #Eagles    

By Judy Sekinger January 12, 2021 in Breakups, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Getting Anywhere?

Dating and not getting anywhere?  Stop, and take a year or so off from seeing anyone romantically. Make friends with folks you normally wouldn’t.  Try different experiences alone or with others.  Get comfortable by yourself and know yourself better.  Regroup yourself and get back to that great base person that you truly are. Now after your break from dating, see the types of person you attract and who you’re attracted to.  I bet they’ll be more compatible to the person you truly are. The whole point here is to find

By Judy Sekinger January 4, 2021 in Breakups, Closure, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility No Comments

Cereal (Serial) Dating ~ Wheaties or Captain Crunch?

You gotta think about why you’re dating.  Stop.  Think.  Why? Are you filling up your time with date after date because you’re afraid to be alone (Captain Crunch) or simply can’t find the right long termer (Wheaties)? A few years ago I was listening to Jenny McCarthy on XM radio.  She’s the best…funny as heck and as smart as my Rhodesian Ridgeback, Zella, well almost.  Jenny hides her smarts behind her comedic personality, the glossed locks and beautiful skin, and guys I don’t even have to mention her BOOBS, and

By Judy Sekinger December 30, 2020 in Breakups, Closure, Communication, Dating, Goals, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility No Comments

Dating Investment

Ready to invest in dating?   This investment is your time, not your money. Realistically, are you able to free up a part of your schedule in the beginning to get to know this new potential partner? Realistically, you’re going to need to free more time during the entire dating process.  And, dating is a numbers game depending on the experience of the dater.  You’ll most likely spend a few months together and happily hop your own ways, dating some more to find your life partner, or dating for what other

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