Notice I didn’t say Thanksgiving alone…..this isn’t a get the violin out moment. People have many reasons for spending a holiday with themselves, and this doesn’t mean that you’re alone…you are with your self! Take the day to do whatever you feel like doing. Blast your favorite old tunes, workout, volunteer or help someone out with a task, get dressed and grab a delish bite for dinner! Don’t play the poor me victim. Everyone needs to learn to be by them selves. Truly by them selves. Being by your self
Remember how you met. This is not meant as a question, but to remember the feeling of when the two of you met. When I first meet couples, I like to ask them how they met. Smiles come to their faces and it evokes memories and those puppy love feelings, even in the emotions of more established couples. Some have given me the first public confession of an on-line meeting. Some couples have the exact same stories, and the more competitive couples ask me which version I want first. 😉
Gotta laugh at the Thanksgiving family stories of that one family member that’s cra-cra and always causing tension when we’re all seated, or stuck, at the dinner table. “Pass the mashed potatoes” is a phrase I heard years ago and it works!! Interrupt or change the subject to shut that person up, or at least delay that family members nonsense to get a mental break! Have your own code-phrase and use it this Thanksgiving Holiday, and go ahead and pull it out as needed throughout the rest of the year.
We’re all going through some type of isolation now. Maybe it’s working from home, cancelled sporting events (Steelers fan here!), shorter shopping trips (can’t wait to flip that mask), lack of travel and vacations. We’re going to have to be creative, which is why so many humans changed residences and got new Covid puppies! The amount of truly nice people I’ve met because of Zella (dog) is incredible….#manmagnet. Single and not in a relationship? Yikes! this is a tough one with finding a new relationship if everything is shut down
Your bored, lonely feeling may just simply be boredom if your married or in a relationship. Behave like your newly dating and you’ll be surprised by the results of your interactions with each other! Shower, style your hair, put real clothes on…get out of those daily grubs. Ladies, remember how you prepped for your man before he picked you up? I’ll bet your look and smell was sweet! Men notice, and you’ll see a difference in interaction. Men? Yup, we’re talking you too!! Shower and put on a shirt and dazzle
Have you recently accepted or initiated a previous date? You know a rewind date… person you’ve dated pre-covid and are now circling back to? Maybe it’s a great possibility because you think you didn’t give the person a fair chance or maybe you have more time with the current world wide slow down to focus on your date. If there’s any type of attraction, explore the possibilities with this person. As always, be upfront and honest while dating. Casual? Companionship? Relationship? Hookup?
Getting over the fantasy of dating someone takes a little bit of time, so be compassionate with yourself, and know that your assumptions about how she/he would be to date is exactly that, an assumption. It’s likely you are fantasizing about what you think dating, or marriage, would be like with this person. Unfortunately she/he doesn’t have the same feelings that you do. Don’t take the rejection personally. A split is better happening sooner than later, before you have more emotions and time invested with this person. The sooner you
People react to freely given advice from another person in different ways. Some receivers unknowingly conform to the verbal limits bestowed upon them and others rebel the negative comment and push harder to achieve their goals with higher results. Which person do you want to be? Stay away #rundontwalk from anyone negatively effecting your life personally and professionally. I can promise you that you are better off by yourself. Are you limiting your dreams by limiting your beliefs? Let’s suppose you want to increase your income from five figures to six
Dating two different people at the same time for several weeks or months can get tricky after awhile, especially when both of their names are the same! Mine were named John, and they were first dates out of the divorce gate…no joke….one was a fix-up and the other I met on the golf course. Now this was years ago when most of us still had a few corded landlines in certain areas of the home, and where it got tricky was when John would call and say “Hi, this is
A great explanation via Ann Landers, without a full blown history lesson: Socialism: You have two cows. Give one to your neighbor. Communism: You have two cows. Give both cows to the government, and they may give you some of the milk. Fascism: You have two cows. You give all the milk to the government, and the government sells it. Nazism: You have two cows. The government shoots you, and takes both cows. Anarchism: You have two cows. Keep both of the cows, shoot the government agent and steal another cow. Capitalism:
