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By Judy Sekinger April 11, 2021 in Arguing, Breakups, Communication, Dating, Foreplay, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Foreplay, not.

I’ve seen this over and over again, and I was reminded again…..ugh….not in my personal life, for the record only.  One of the greatest ways to kill romance, or any chance of romance in your relationship, is to leave a mess in your home for your partner to live with and clean up after. And while I’d like to say that you are simply a slob and don’t know any better, I’m calling your B.S.  You’re an adult, get your crap together or get out. This passive aggressive move is

By Judy Sekinger March 14, 2021 in Communication, Dating, Foreplay, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Sex, Stress, Uncategorized No Comments

Is Sex 90% Mental?

Did you ever wonder why sex can be great one day, really great (!) another day, so-so (ok, I’ll take it) another day, and what’s happening to me another day?! My juju estimation is that sexual satisfaction #reachinganorgasm, is 90% mental, for both males and females.  Relaxation and chemistry can provide some really great romps in the hay.  Guys and gals this is why the drive home, or a walk with the dog, is so important after a long day of work.  And there’s a reason why foreplay can be

By Judy Sekinger February 21, 2021 in Arguing, Breakups, Cheating, Communication, Dating, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Liar, Liar Pants on Fire

Remember that phrase from your younger years, and if you’re lucky enough to be blessed with children, are your kids using this phrase?  I remember the one time I was caught in a lie as a child, I let the hamster out of the cage to run around the room and voila,  he disappeared.  There weren’t any of my three siblings around, and of course they wouldn’t take the blame anyway.  Yup, caught in a lie and for me as a child this was traumatic.  I didn’t get spanked or

By Judy Sekinger January 19, 2021 in Breakups, Cheating, Closure, Communication, Goals, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Stress No Comments

Ruby Slippers

A few weeks ago I met up with a friend one evening, I’ll call her Dorothy.  During our catch-up conversation, unexpectedly, she thanked me for being there for her through her divorce a few years ago…..my how time fly’s!  I said, “Dorothy, I did not do anything!”  Still, she thanked me. Two years prior Dorothy had moved downtown, with 2 dogs, 4 semi-adult children off and thriving in the world, great friends, and the best head of hair!  When she introduced herself to me, Dorothy had tears in her eyes,

By Judy Sekinger January 14, 2021 in Breakups, Cheating, Closure, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Stress No Comments

Readjust and Move Forward

Remember that every relationship is different from one person to the next.   And the great thing about dating is that you’re not married so it’s easy to make a sincere exit from your relationship and search for the one for you! I get that it hurts and you’re right that breakups aren’t easy.  The takeaway here is that just because you had different viewpoints and issues with one person doesn’t mean it’ll be same with another.  Take a quick dating break, readjust, get out of your own way, and move

By Judy Sekinger January 12, 2021 in Breakups, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Getting Anywhere?

Dating and not getting anywhere?  Stop, and take a year or so off from seeing anyone romantically. Make friends with folks you normally wouldn’t.  Try different experiences alone or with others.  Get comfortable by yourself and know yourself better.  Regroup yourself and get back to that great base person that you truly are. Now after your break from dating, see the types of person you attract and who you’re attracted to.  I bet they’ll be more compatible to the person you truly are. The whole point here is to find

By Judy Sekinger January 8, 2021 in Communication, Dating, Foreplay, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Gentlemen

Hey guys, when meeting your first date at a venue be sure to be there before her, or at least within minutes of the agreed upon time.  Traffic?  Couldn’t find the other sock?  Mom called?  There is no excuse.  The lady shouldn’t have to wait there by herself, and you never know who she could meet while waiting for your scrumptious buttocks.  Game on! Married men, be there on time for your wives, this shows you care and is very good foreplay for what’s to come.

By Judy Sekinger January 3, 2021 in Breakups, Cheating, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Internet or Introduction?

What’s the best way to meet the person of your dreams?   On-line dating or through a friend? Online, you don’t know this person but with resources today you can do your due diligence. So, your soccer mom friends know a man/woman from a different league and think you’re both nice people and should meet?  Sure, go ahead but treat this like an online date.  Eyes wide open, because your friends really don’t know this person or their working brain.  Don’t trust him/her just because your friends know this person.  Ask

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