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By Judy Sekinger December 17, 2020 in Arguing, Communication, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

Run, don’t walk.

Run, don’t walk! Whether it’s co-workers, family members, friends, a person walking with their dog through the park, negative people’s attitude will enter your vibe and throw you off course to your greatness.  Keep your distance from these people. Look how far Forrest Gump went, he was successful because he is so pure of heart.  And boy could he run. Run don’t walk!

By Judy Sekinger December 15, 2020 in Arguing, Breakups, Communication, Dating, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Stress No Comments

Rejection, it’s most likely not your fault

Rejection is really tough to take, and we’ve all been rejected at one time or another in a relationship or simply by someone we’d like to get to know. 🙂 That other person is looking for his or her match…whatever that match may be.  Yes, it’s personal, but don’t take it personally.  Be sure to ask for a sound explanation, and remember that persons expanation for refection at a later time.  You’ll see that the break-up was probably for a good reason. You have to go through the emotional shock

By Judy Sekinger December 3, 2020 in Communication, Dating, Foreplay, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Sex, Stress No Comments

Wear, what??

Years ago when I was first on the dating seen as a bonafide adult, I was going away for an evening and OM-Gosh, what do I wear at night?  So I went to VC and bumped into a friend who was also single and dating.  I’ll refer to the friend as SAD, single and dating. 🙂  Now that I think about this scenario, it’s the classic of Girlfriends Guide to Divorce, lol.  And I DO have a lot of these stories! So if you can imagine, SAD said, “Oh no,

By Judy Sekinger November 30, 2020 in Breakups, Closure, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

If the In-Laws are Monsters…..

…then the marriage will never work!?   True or False? This was the discussion at an early morning Pilates Reformer class this morning.  A 27 year old woman said that because the instructors ex-BF’s mother was very opinionated and controlling over their wedding plans, that a marriage would never had worked….of course, I had to add my two-cents. 🙂 The marriage absolutely can work.  BUT, only, and I emphasize ONLY, if the husband takes the side of his bride at every difficult turn AND has the talk with his Mother. The couple

By Judy Sekinger November 29, 2020 in Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Sex, Stress No Comments

A Marriage needs more than Love

Marriage, as in a personal love relationship, needs more than love, intimacy, honesty, and trust, to flow nicely through your lives together.  Marriage on a business level is a different animal and may be discussed at a later time. Detailed discussions on religious views, children and how will they be raised, boundaries with in-laws, and money and budget, are a must before taking the blissful plunge into a successful marriage. While I am not going to dive deep here, if you are about to get involved in your first or

By Judy Sekinger November 18, 2020 in Arguing, Communication, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress, Uncategorized No Comments

Pass The Mashed Potatoes

Gotta laugh at the Thanksgiving family stories of that one family member that’s cra-cra and always causing tension when we’re all seated, or stuck, at the dinner table. “Pass the mashed potatoes”  is a phrase I heard years ago and it works!!  Interrupt or change the subject to shut that person up, or at least delay that family members nonsense to get a mental break! Have your own code-phrase and use it this Thanksgiving Holiday, and go ahead and pull it out as needed throughout the rest of the year.

By Judy Sekinger November 12, 2020 in Cheating, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Responsibility, Sex, Stress No Comments

Relationship Matters…Covid’s Only an Excuse

Your bored, lonely feeling may just simply be boredom if your married or in a relationship. Behave like your newly dating and you’ll be surprised by the results of your interactions with each other!  Shower, style your hair, put real clothes on…get out of those daily grubs.  Ladies, remember how you prepped for your man before he picked you up?  I’ll bet your look and smell was sweet!  Men notice, and you’ll see a difference in interaction.   Men? Yup, we’re talking you too!!  Shower and put on a shirt and dazzle

By Judy Sekinger November 1, 2020 in Arguing, Breakups, Cheating, Closure, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Stress, Uncategorized No Comments

Dating Rejection?

Getting over the fantasy of dating someone takes a little bit of time, so be compassionate with yourself, and know that your assumptions about how she/he would be to date is exactly that, an assumption. It’s likely you are fantasizing about what you think dating, or marriage, would be like with this person.  Unfortunately she/he doesn’t have the same feelings that you do.  Don’t take the rejection personally.  A split is better happening sooner than later, before you have more emotions and time invested with this person. The sooner you

By Judy Sekinger October 27, 2020 in Breakups, Cheating, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Responsibility, Sex, Stress, Uncategorized No Comments

Dual Dating

Dating two different people at the same time for several weeks or months can get tricky after awhile, especially when both of their names are the same!  Mine were named John, and they were first dates out of the divorce gate…no joke….one was a fix-up and the other I met on the golf course.  Now this was years ago when most of us still had a few corded landlines in certain areas of the home, and where it got tricky was when John would call and say “Hi, this is

By Judy Sekinger October 23, 2020 in Arguing, Communication, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Politics, Responsibility, Stress, Uncategorized No Comments

Not just a pretty face history lesson: Communism, Socialism, Fascism

A great explanation via Ann Landers, without a full blown history lesson: Socialism: You have two cows.  Give one to your neighbor. Communism: You have two cows.  Give both cows to the government, and they may give you some of the milk. Fascism: You have two cows.  You give all the milk to the government, and the government sells it. Nazism: You have two cows.  The government shoots you, and takes both cows. Anarchism: You have two cows.  Keep both of the cows, shoot the government agent and steal another cow. Capitalism:

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