All Yak But No Shak All Yak But No Shak
By Judy Sekinger December 3, 2020 in Communication, Dating, Foreplay, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Sex, Stress No Comments

Wear, what??

Years ago when I was first on the dating seen as a bonafide adult, I was going away for an evening and OM-Gosh, what do I wear at night?  So I went to VC and bumped into a friend who was also single and dating.  I’ll refer to the friend as SAD, single and dating. 🙂  Now that I think about this scenario, it’s the classic of Girlfriends Guide to Divorce, lol.  And I DO have a lot of these stories! So if you can imagine, SAD said, “Oh no,

By Judy Sekinger November 30, 2020 in Breakups, Closure, Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress No Comments

If the In-Laws are Monsters…..

…then the marriage will never work!?   True or False? This was the discussion at an early morning Pilates Reformer class this morning.  A 27 year old woman said that because the instructors ex-BF’s mother was very opinionated and controlling over their wedding plans, that a marriage would never had worked….of course, I had to add my two-cents. 🙂 The marriage absolutely can work.  BUT, only, and I emphasize ONLY, if the husband takes the side of his bride at every difficult turn AND has the talk with his Mother. The couple

By Judy Sekinger November 29, 2020 in Communication, Dating, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Sex, Stress No Comments

A Marriage needs more than Love

Marriage, as in a personal love relationship, needs more than love, intimacy, honesty, and trust, to flow nicely through your lives together.  Marriage on a business level is a different animal and may be discussed at a later time. Detailed discussions on religious views, children and how will they be raised, boundaries with in-laws, and money and budget, are a must before taking the blissful plunge into a successful marriage. While I am not going to dive deep here, if you are about to get involved in your first or

By Judy Sekinger November 26, 2020 in Communication, Goals, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility No Comments

Holiday with your Self

Notice I didn’t say Thanksgiving alone…..this isn’t a get the violin out moment. People have many reasons for spending a holiday with themselves, and this doesn’t mean that you’re alone…you are with your self!  Take the day to do whatever you feel like doing.  Blast your favorite old tunes, workout, volunteer or help someone out with a task, get dressed and grab a delish bite for dinner! Don’t play the poor me victim. Everyone needs to learn to be by them selves.  Truly by them selves.   Being by your self

By Judy Sekinger November 23, 2020 in Communication, Dating, Foreplay, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Sex, Uncategorized No Comments

How’d You Meet?

Remember how you met.  This is not meant as a question, but to remember the feeling of when the two of you met. When I first meet couples, I like to ask them how they met.  Smiles come to their faces and it evokes memories and those puppy love feelings, even in the emotions of more established couples.  Some have given me the first public confession of an on-line meeting. Some couples have the exact same stories, and the more competitive couples ask me which version I want first.  😉

By Judy Sekinger November 20, 2020 in Communication, Dating, Foreplay, Lifestyle, Love, Relationship, Sex No Comments

Attraction To Keep Him Hooked.

We’ve all been there, and almost every relationship gets settled which creates predictability or #dull.  Do away with the predictability, be spontaneous, this means you married ladies, too!  Do something unpredictable after dinner, like a game of chess rather than just watching TV.  Walk down the street and share an ice cream, go bowling or to a movie, try an axe throwing bar, anything to keep your relationship engaged and active! Stimulate his brain by bringing up a topic that you normally don’t discuss.  Triggering the brain awakens the brains

By Judy Sekinger November 18, 2020 in Arguing, Communication, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Stress, Uncategorized No Comments

Pass The Mashed Potatoes

Gotta laugh at the Thanksgiving family stories of that one family member that’s cra-cra and always causing tension when we’re all seated, or stuck, at the dinner table. “Pass the mashed potatoes”  is a phrase I heard years ago and it works!!  Interrupt or change the subject to shut that person up, or at least delay that family members nonsense to get a mental break! Have your own code-phrase and use it this Thanksgiving Holiday, and go ahead and pull it out as needed throughout the rest of the year.

By Judy Sekinger November 14, 2020 in Communication, Dating, Foreplay, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Relationship, Responsibility, Sex, Uncategorized No Comments

Explore a New Relationship

We’re all going through some type of isolation now.  Maybe it’s working from home, cancelled sporting events (Steelers fan here!), shorter shopping trips (can’t wait to flip that mask),  lack of travel and vacations.  We’re going to have to be creative, which is why so many humans changed residences and got new Covid puppies!   The amount of truly nice people I’ve met because of Zella (dog) is incredible….#manmagnet. Single and not in a relationship?  Yikes! this is a tough one with finding a new relationship if everything is shut down

By Judy Sekinger November 12, 2020 in Cheating, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Responsibility, Sex, Stress No Comments

Relationship Matters…Covid’s Only an Excuse

Your bored, lonely feeling may just simply be boredom if your married or in a relationship. Behave like your newly dating and you’ll be surprised by the results of your interactions with each other!  Shower, style your hair, put real clothes on…get out of those daily grubs.  Ladies, remember how you prepped for your man before he picked you up?  I’ll bet your look and smell was sweet!  Men notice, and you’ll see a difference in interaction.   Men? Yup, we’re talking you too!!  Shower and put on a shirt and dazzle

By Judy Sekinger November 9, 2020 in Breakups, Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Love, Mental Health, Responsibility, Sex No Comments

Rewind Date?

Have you recently accepted or initiated a previous date?  You know a rewind date…  person you’ve dated pre-covid and are now circling back to? Maybe it’s a great possibility because you think you didn’t give the person a fair chance or maybe you have more time with the current world wide slow down to focus on your date. If there’s any type of attraction, explore the possibilities with this person.  As always, be upfront and honest while dating.  Casual?  Companionship? Relationship? Hookup?  

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